For years I knew that on my path I was supposed to be honoring my ancestors. But the thing about the ancestors I had direct experience with was that at best they could be described as grumpy. At worst they were abusive. So I wasn’t too hepped on honoring them.
Then one day it occurred to me to try an experiment. I decided to try to make a list of any positive things I could remember about them. So I got out a piece of paper and started writing. The list went like this — always provided for his family, was deeply intuned with nature and its cycles, taught me about self discipline, took me to the Ice Capades in a blizzard. If I tried it wasn’t hard to make a list.
This was a real eye opener for me. My experience of their memories had been so overwhelmingly negative for so long. So I took some time focusing my thoughts on the items on my list. Soon enough I felt able to honor them in ritual.
I started making a point to honor them in ritual on a regular basis. Next thing I know they’re coming to me in trance sessions and offering good solid advice and helping me in all my spiritual problems. My dad even came to me and helped point me towards a place to get a proper gand for my work! He had rarely been that helpful in life!
So that’s what I did for the ones I had personally known. For those who were just names on my family tree it was easy to imagine them in a positive way (even though in all of their photos they looked grumpy!).
This really worked for me. I now have an actual new relationship with them. A better relationship than I had had with them when they were in this realm. And it helps bring fullness to my spiritual life like I had never had before.